JANGAN GUNA PAM TIRUAN
Soalan

SAYA mempunyai tiga soalan.

1) Saya pernah membaca mengenai satu cara membesarkan zakar ialah dengan merendam keseluruhan zakar ke dalam air teh yang suam. Adakah ia berkesan atau mempunyai kesan sampingan pada masa akan datang?

2) Bagaimana kedudukan zakar yang betul ketika memakai seluar dalam? Adakah kepala zakar mendongak ke atas atau ke bawah?

3) Kenapa zakar saya semakin mengecil dan pendek ketika menegang?

AZIZ
Kulim, Kedah

Jawapan

Memanjangkan zakar dengan merendamkannya ke dalam air teh suam? Ini macam hendak mempromosikan teh. Kenapa tidak dengan air kopi asli atau air tongkat ali? Jangan dengar perkara yang mengarut ini.

Bukan hanya merendam dengan teh, malah mengurut dengan minyak lintah, dhab, ikan belacak atau apa-apa minyak, makan herba, malah jika anda menggunakan kaedah pam vakum sekalipun tidak akan membeesarkan zakar secara kekal.

Sama juga mereka yang mempromosikan suntikan ke zakar kerana sebarang kesilapan akan menyebabkan zakar rosak.

Selain pembedahan untuk melegakan otot penampung zakar untuk membuatkan zakar kelihatan panjang, kaedah tanpa pembedahan ialah dengan menggunakan alat penarik zakar yang tulen. Nasihat saya, jangan cari nahas dengan mencari pam tiruan yang murah.

Bagi soalan kedua, zakar bukan kereta untuk ‘dipark’ ke atas atau bawah. Ikut kedudukan dan keselesaan anda. Lebih baik pakai seluar longgar. Seluar dalam longgar seperti ‘boxer short’ lebih selesa.

Soalan ketiga mengenai saiz zakar, ia akan kelihatan kecil walaupun menegang, kerana jika dilihat dari atas dalam keadaan mendongak memang kelihatan kecil, kecuali dilihat dari sisi cermin.

Sebahagian besar lelaki yang mendapati menggunakan kondom sebagai kaedah merancang keluarga dapat meningkat atau melambatkan masa bersama, akan kekal menggunakannya walaupun tiada hajat untuk merancang keluarga.

Jika ini berlaku, ia menjadi cabaran untuk mereka, iaitu kedua-dua pasangan suami isteri, terutama apabila ingin menambah bilangan anak.

Selain itu, tiada apa-apa masalah dengan penggunaan kondom. `Minyak’ yang dimaksudkan itu bukan minyak, sebaliknya ia pelicin `silikon’ yang memudahkan gerakan kondom ke dalam kelamin wanita, selain mengelak alahan kepada pemakai dan pasangan.
Bagi yang ingin kekalkan kesan kondom untuk melewatkan ejakulasi, anda boleh menggunakan cincin penambat kelamin lelaki atau `penile ring’ yang kini banyak di pasaran. Anda boleh sarungkan cincin berkenaan ketika ereksi dan cengkaman cincin itu boleh menghalang pancutan air mani terlalu cepat.

Biasa terjadi pada seseorang alatnya kuat cergas di luar kawasan, manakala sampai sahaja ke dalam perkarangan ia pun muram, mundu dan lembik. Setengah orang mengatakan ini adalah perbuatan orang tetapi yang sebenarnya adalah kembali kepada beberapa sebab:

1. Lelaki tidak teringin tetapi digagahi menurut kemahuan perempuan.

2. Tidak ada percintaan di antara lelaki dan perempuan.

3. Ada satu sifat atau keadaan tidak digemari oleh lelaki kepada perempuan itu.

4. Banyak kali telah melakukannya menyebabkan urat kasar dalam zakar itu lemah.

REMAJA SUKAR KAWAL TABIAT ONANI
Soalan
SAYA remaja berusia belasan tahun dan kerap beronani apabila terangsang dengan bahan lucah. Malah, saya tidak mampu melihat wanita seksi dan melakukan onani sehingga berkali-kali sehari. Saya ingin tahu, adakah tumbesaran remaja belasan tahun seperti saya terjejas atau terbantut apabila kerap melakukan onani?

JOHNNY
Kuala Lumpur

Jawapan

Alam remaja sememangnya banyak cabaran kerana ia langkah memasuki alam dewasa. Sehubungan itu, mustahak untuk remaja seperti anda memahami perubahan yang berlaku kepada diri dan mengamalkan gaya hidup sihat serta perilaku yang boleh diterima masyarakat kerana ini membantu anda meneroka alam baru itu.

Satu perubahan di alam remaja ialah kesedaran mengenai naluri, nafsu dan syahwat. Ini fitrah selaku makhluk Tuhan. Di samping itu, anda diberi akal dan melaluinya anda dapat mengenali, mempelajari dan menggunakannya untuk kebaikan, bukan mengikut hawa nafsu seperti makhluk Tuhan yang tidak berakal (binatang).

Mengenali perasaan syahwat ibarat mengenali api. Jika tidak tahu cara mengawalnya, anda akan terbakar. Anda sedar anda mudah terangsang dengan gambar wanita seksi, tetapi anda ceburi pornografi dan anda legakannya dengan onani.

Bayangkan keletihan dan kelesuan yang anda alami selepas melakukan onani. Itu satu tekanan dan tentu memberi kesan negatif kepada tumbesaran tubuh anda. Jika anda ketagih perbuatan itu, anda seperti mereka yang ketagih dadah kerana kesannya anda sentiasa letih, tiada semangat, tidak dapat memberi tumpuan dan berisiko mengalami msalah seksual dengan pasangan.

LELAKI CEPAT KLIMAKS

Tidak dapat mengawal ejakulasi sebelum sempat memasukkan zakar.

MENGIKUT fahaman isteri, jika suami mencapai klimaks, bermakna hubungan seksual itu selesai dan pasangannya puas. Anggapan ini bermakna kepuasan seksual hanya untuk keseronokan suami.

Bagaimanapun, apabila ditanya suami, tentu dia akan memberitahu sebaliknya, iaitu tidak berasa puas kerana cepat sangat klimaks dan jika boleh hendak masa lebih panjang, tetapi apakan daya.

Sebenarnya lelaki itu mengalami masalah tidak dapat mengawal ejakulasi kerana belum sempat memasukkan zakar ke dalam faraj, dia mencapai klimaksnya.

Dia tidak dapat mengenali peringkat praklimaks dan pada kebiasaan hanya sedar dia mencapai klimaks apabila mendekatkan zakar kepada kemaluan isteri.

Jika air mani yang terkeluar itu berdekatan pembukaan faraj dan meleleh masuk ke dalam faraj, tidak hairan jika isteri itu mengandung walaupun masih dara!

Selagi masalah cepat klimaks tidak dapat dikawal, seseorang lelaki itu akan terus mengalami masalah untuk bersetubuh dengan pasangan. Keadaan menjadi bertambah serius jika isteri mendiamkan diri kerana ia boleh menghadirkan masalah lain, termasuk curang.

Kaedah terbaik ialah berterus-terang dan jika suami terus ‘liat’ untuk berusaha mengatasi masalah, isteri harus merungut dan jika terdesak, mengadu kepada ahli keluarga terdekat bagi memastikan suami mendapat rawatan doktor.

Masalah cepat klimaks sering berlaku kepada lelaki pada peringkat awal persetubuhan kerana pengalaman lama melakukan onani dan mencapai klimaks cepat terbawa-bawa kepada hubungan seksual sebenar.

Apabila lelaki itu dapat mengawal pergerakan zakar dalam faraj dan tahap ereksi, dia akan dapat mengatasi masalah berkenaan dan hubungan kelamin menjadi lebih seronok.

‘MATI’ SETENGAH JALAN

Soalan

SAYA ada beberapa soalan. Yang pertama, di manakah klinik atau hospital yang sesuai untuk saya membuat rujukan berkenaan sakit tuan. Adakah klinik khas untuk rujukan?

Soalan kedua, setelah membaca ruangan Sakit Tuan, saya mungkin mengalami DE tahap awalan iaitu tidak dapat masuk ke dalam faraj kerana zakar tidak cukup keras dan mengendur atau ‘mati’ setengah jalan. Hal ini kerap berlaku pada saya.

Oleh itu saya mencari kaedah rawatan sesuai untuk mengatasi masalah ini. Untuk pengetahuan doktor, saya baru mendirikan rumah tangga tiga bulan lalu dan belum ada tanda kehamilan pada isteri.

Adakah saya menghadapi masalah seksual kerana kerap bermimpi basah, dengan paling kurang tiga kali seminggu?

ZAINAL
Dungun

Jawapan

Bagi melakukan seks penetratif, ereksi perlu kekal keras supaya dapat disalurkan ke dalam anggota sulit wanita. Jadi tahap ereksi patut pada gred 5 jika tidak gred 4.

Untuk makluman, Gred 0: Tiada apa-apa. Gred 1: Hanya zakar kembang/tidak keras. Gred 2: Zakar kembang dan keras, tetapi tidak cukup keras untuk disalurkan ke dalam faraj. Gred 3: Zakar kembang dan keras dan dapat masuk 50 peratus. Gred 4: Zakar kembang dan keras, kadangkala bengkok ketika hendak salurkan ke dalam faraj. Gred 5: Zakar kembang dan keras, tiada masalah untuk masuk.

Tahap ereksi dapat dipertingkatkan dengan mengemut, iaitu mencengkam otot lubang najis dan lubang kencing, sebelum langsung sorong. Jika ereksi kurang memuaskan, kemungkinan besar darah tidak cukup masuk dalam liang otot zakar.

Makan ‘ubat kuat’ yang biasa dijual di pasaran jualan langsung (MLM) dan farmasi boleh dilakukan jika ‘ubat’ itu tidak mengandungi ubat larangan.

Yang membimbangkan ialah, kebanyakan ‘ubat kuat’ mengandungi sedikit PDE5 Inhibitor saperti Viagra atau Cialis yang dianggap haram atau salah atau disalahgunakan pengusaha dan pengedar ubat kuat.

Jadi saya tidak syorkan ubat sebegitu kerana takut kesan sampingan. Yang paling baik ialah berjumpa doktor untuk menjalani pemeriksaan dan mendapat bimbingan dan rawatan profesional.

Mengenai pengalaman anda mengalami mimpi basah beberapa kali seminggu, ia perkara biasa dan bukan masalah serta tiada kaitan dengan masalah yang anda alami.

Amalkan minum air masak yang sejuk dan diminum waktu pagi. Tarik nafas sebelum minum, tahan dan hembus ketika habis minum. Kepala berperanan dan bukannya gelas yang ditunggakkan.

Minum secara perlahan-lahan, paling sedikit 3 teguk.

Boleh amalkan minum pagi dengan air mati yang bercampur sedikit madu.

MASALAH SENGGAMA
Soalan

SAYA baru mendirikan rumah tangga Januari lalu. Yang merunsingkan saya ialah, sehingga hari ini saya belum dapat memasukkan zakar ke dalam kemaluan isteri.

Isteri saya mengadu sakit kerana zakar saya terlalu besar. Usia saya 37 tahun manakala isteri saya 28 tahun. Apa perlu saya lakukan untuk mengatasi masalah ini?

RAHMAN

Johor Bahru

Jawapan

Zakar ialah anggota kemaluan lelaki yang disalurkan ke dalam faraj wanita apabila ia keras dan padat untuk tujuan seks penetratif.

Lelaki memerlukan kerjasama wanita untuk menyalurkan zakarnya ketika hendak bersetubuh manakala pasangannya perlu melegakan pembukaan faraj, memegang dan menghalakan ereksi pasangan ke pembukaan faraj.

Pada masa sama, wanita perlu melegakan ruang faraj supaya zakar mudah masuk. Tanpa melegakan pembukaan dan ruang faraj, memang sukar menyalurkan zakar ke dalam faraj.

Dalam keadaan gugup dan takut, wanita sukar memberi tumpuan. Sebaliknya, dia akan mencengkam faraj dan sudah tentu pembukaan faraj tidak akan kelihatan.

Apabila pembukaan faraj dilegakan, ia akan kelihatan berdekatan pembukaan lubang najis. Jika bayi yang besar itu boleh keluar dari faraj dengan mudah, tiada sebab kenapa zakar tidak dapat disalurkan ke dalam faraj.

Kemungkinan besar isteri anda mengalami masalah mengawal pembukaan farajnya. Keadaan ini dikenali sebagai ‘Vaginismus’. Isteri anda perlu berjumpa pakar untuk menyelesaikan masalahnya.

Dapatkan juga cakera padat ‘Cinta, Perkahwinan & Kesihatan Seksual’ di pasaran. Banyak maklumat mengenali cara mengendalikan malam pertama.

RISAU TIDAK BERFUNGSI

Soalan

SAYA pemuda berusia 25 tahun, tidak merokok dan tidak pernah melakukan hubungan seks. Bagaimanapun, baru-baru ini alat sulit saya tidak tegang, malah seperti tidak berfungsi. Adakah saya akan mengalami masalah ereksi ketika berkahwin nanti?

MAT BINGUNG
Dungun, Terengganu

Jawapan

Ketika remaja, alat sulit melalui perubahan tumbesaran dan ketika itu memang ereksi kerap dan sukar dikawal. Lama-kelamaan kekerapan ereksi terhad kepada waktu tertentu seperti ketika lelaki itu mengalami rangsangan seksual atau ketika bangun dari tidur pada waktu pagi atau malam.

Memang kekurangan ereksi pada waktu pagi menjadi tanda awal masalah ereksi.

Bagaimanapun, jika anda boleh mencapai ereksi ketika dalam keadaan terangsang dan kerap mengalami ereksi pagi dan ketika terasa hendak membuang air kecil dan bangun pada waktu pagi, ia membuktikan anda sihat dan fungsi ereksi anda normal.

Anda tidak boleh bandingkan situasi masa kini berbanding ketika anda remaja. Kini, anda ada kawalan minda dan tidak akan mencapai ereksi jika anda tidak mengizinkannya. Ini yang dikenali sebagai kawalan diri.

Justeru, jangan salah faham kerana jika anda mengalami tekanan dan tidak yakin kepada kemampuan syahwat anda, anda boleh mengalami masalah ‘disfungi erektil psikologikal’.

Ketika bangun tidur semasa zakar tegang, duduk dengan menemukan kedua belah tapak kaki. Tarik nafas sambil kedua belah tangan menekan lutut (serapat mungkin dengan lantai dan semampu mungkin)

Gerakan ini disertai dengan kemutan.

40 mistakes men make while having sex with women

1) NOT KISSING FIRST. Avoiding her lips and diving straight for the erogenous zones makes her feel like you’re paying by the hour and trying to get your money’s worth by cutting out nonessentials. A proper passionate kiss is the ultimate form of foreplay.

2) BLOWING TOO HARD IN HER EAR. Admit it, some kid at school told you girls love this. Well, there’s a difference between being erotic and blowing as if you’re trying to extinguish the candles on your 50th birthday cake. That hurts.

3) NOT SHAVING. You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which your rake repeatedly across your partner’s face and thighs. When she turns her head from side to side, it’s not passion, it’s avoidance.

4) SQUEEZING HER BREAST. Most men act like a housewife testing a melon for ripeness when they get their hand on a pair. Stroke, caress, and smooth them.

5) BITING HER NIPPLES. Why do men fasten onto a woman’s nipples, then clamp down like they’re trying to deflate her body via her breasts? Nipples are highly sensitive. They can’t stand up to chewing. Lick and suck them gently. Flicking your tongue across them is good. Pretending they’re a dogie toy, isn’t.

6) TWIDDLING HER NIPPLES. Stop doing that thing where you twiddle the nipples between finger and thumb like you’re trying to find a radio station in a hilly area. Focus on the whole breasts, not just the exclamation points.

7) IGNORING THE OTHER PARTS OF HER BODY. A woman is not a highway with just three turnoffs: Breastville East and West, and the Midtown Tunnel. There are vast areas of her body which you’ve ignored far too often as you go bombing straight into downtown Vagina. So start paying them some attention.

8) GETTING THE HAND TRAPPED. Poor manual dexterity in the underskirt region can result in tangled fingers and underpants. If you’re going to be that aggressive, just ask her to take the damn things off.

9) LEAVING HER A LITTLE PRESENT. Condom disposal is the man’s responsibility. You wore it, you store it.

10) ATTACKING THE CLITORIS. Direct pressure is very unpleasant, so gently rotate your fingers along side of the clitoris.

11) STOPPING FOR A BREAK. Women, unlike men, don’t pick up where they left off. If you stop, they plummet back to square one very fast. If you can tell she’s not there,keep going at all costs, numb jaw or not.

12) UNDRESSING HER AWKWARDLY. Women hate looking stupid, but stupid she will look when naked at the waist with a sweater stuck over her head. Unwrap her like an elegant present, not a kid’s toy.

13) GIVING HER A WEDGIE DURING FOREPLAY. Stroking her gently through her panties can be very sexy. Pulling the Page 1 40 MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHILE HAVING SEX WITH WOMEN material up between her thighs and yanking it back and forth is not.

14) BEING OBSESSED WITH THE VAGINA. Although most men can find the clitoris without maps, they still believe that the vagina is where it’s all at. No sooner is your hand down there than you’re trying to stuff stolen banknotes up a chimney. This is okay in principle, but if you’re not careful, it can hurt so don’t get carried away. It’s best to pay more attention to her clitoris and the exterior ofher vagina at first, then gently slip a finger inside her and see if she likes it.

15) MASSAGING TOO ROUGHLY. You’re attempting to give her a sensual, relaxing massage to get her in the mood. Hands and fingertips are okay; elbows and knees are not.

16) UNDRESSING PREMATURELY. Don’t force the issue by stripping before she’s at least made some move toward getting your stuff off, even if it’s just undoing a couple of buttons.

17) TAKING YOUR PANTS OFF FIRST. A man in socks and underpants is a at his worst. Lose the socks first.

18) GOING TOO FAST. When you get to the penis-in-vagina situation, the worst thing you can do is pump away like an industrial power tool – she’ll soon feel like an assembly-line worker made obsolete by your technology. Build up slowly,with clean, straight, regular thrusts.

19) GOING TOO HARD. If you bash your great triangular hip bones into her thigh or stomach, the pain is equal to two weeks of horseback riding concentrated into a few seconds.

20) COMING TOO SOON. Every man’s fear. With reason. If you shoot before you see the whites of her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure her pleasure too.

21) NOT COMING SOON ENOUGH. It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing is the mark of a sex god, but to her it’s more likely the mark of a numb vagina. At least buy some intriguing wall hangings, so she has something to hold her interest while you’re playing Marathon Man.

22) ASKING IF SHE HAS COME. You really ought to be able to tell. Most women make noise. But if you really don’t know, don’t ask.

23) PERFORMING ORAL SEX TOO GENTLY. Don’t act like a giant cat at a saucer of milk. Get your whole mouth down there, and concentrate on gently rotating or flicking your tongue on her clitoris.

24) NUDGING HER HEAD DOWN. Men persist in doing this until she’s eyeball-to-penis, hoping that it will lead very swiftly to mouth-to-penis. All women hate this.It’s about three steps from being dragged to a cave by their hair. If you want her to use her mouth, use yours; try talking seductively to her.

25) NOT WARNING HER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX. Sperm tastes like sea water mixed with egg white. Not everybody likes it.When she’s performing oral sex, warn her before you come so she can do what’s necessary.

Page 2 40 MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHILE HAVING SEX WITH WOMEN 26) MOVING AROUND DURING FELLATIO. Don’t thrust. She’ll do all the moving during fellatio. You just lie there. And don’t grab her head.

27) TAKING ETIQUETTE ADVICE FROM PORN MOVIES. In X-rated movies, women seem to love it when men ejaculate over them. In real life, it just means more laundry to do.

28) MAKING HER RIDE ON TOP FOR AGES. Asking her to be on top is fine. Lying there grunting while she does all the hard work is not. Caress her gently, so that she doesn’t feel quite so much like the captain of a schooner. And let her have a rest.

29) ATTEMPTING ANAL SEX AND PRETENDING IT WAS AN ACCIDENT. This is how men earn a reputatio n for not being able to follow directions. If you want to put it there, ask her first. And don’t think that being drunk is an excuse.

30) TAKING PICTURES. When a man says, “Can I take a photo of you?” she’ll hear the words “__to show my buddies.” At least let her have custody of them.

31) NOT BEING IMAGINATIVE ENOUGH. Imagination is anything from drawing patterns on her back to pouring honey on her and licking it off. Fruit, vegetables, ice and feathers are all handy props; hot candle wax and permanent dye are a no no.

32) SLAPPING YOUR STOMACH AGAINST HERS. There is no less erotic noise. It’s as sexy as a belching contest.

33) ARRANGING HER IN STUPID POSES. If she wants to do advanced yoga in bed, fine, but unless she’s a Romanian gymnast, don’t get too ambitious. Ask yourself if you want a sexual partner with snapped hamstrings.

34) LOOKING FOR HER PROSTATE. Read this carefully: Anal stimulation feels good for men because they have a prostate. Women don’t.

35) GIVING LOVE BITES. It is highly erotic to exert some gentle suction on the sides of the neck, if you do it carefully. No woman wants to have to wear turtlenecks and jaunty scarves for weeks on end.

36) BARKING INSTRUCTIONS. Don’t shout encouragement like a coach with a megaphone. It’s not a big turn-on.

37) TALKING DIRTY. It makes you sound like a lonely magazine editor calling a 1-900 line. If she likes nasty talk, she’ll let you know

38) NOT CARING WHETHER SHE COMES. You have to finish the job. Keep on trying unt il you get it right, and she might even do the same for you.

39) SQUASHING HER. Men generally weigh more than women, so if you lie on her a bit too heavily, she will turn blue.

40) THANKING HER. Never thank a woman for having sex with you.Your bedroom is not a soup kitchen.

Premature Ejaculation:

What exactly is premature ejaculation?

Ejaculation that occurs prior to when a man wishes or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy the partner.

When most males ejaculate they tend to quickly lose a usable erection for the simple reason that their discharge has temporarily released a state of elevated sexual tension.

What are the causes of premature ejaculation?

It seems logical that our prehistoric male ancestors were all rapid ejaculators. The Homo Erectus who could couple quickly with his mate and repidly reach ejaculation was then free to deal with enemy tribesman and predatory sabre-toothed tigers. The slowpoke got clubbed or eaten.

Therefore, only rapid ejaculators survived long enough to sire descendants.

Thus, if speed of ejaculation were hereditary, we all should have fast ejaculatory reflexes.
Obviously, the above theory cannot be proven; however, it does contain an element of truth. It is probably “natural” for healthy males to ejaculate quickly. Lasting longer serves no genetic function that we know of.

Lasting is a learned behavior, like learning to dance. It can prolong and intensify pleasure for a man. Also, many women like to experience orgasm -or have been socially conditioned to enjoy orgasm – when the erect penis is inside them. To reach orgasm this way often requires periods of more or less continuous stimulation by the penis.

Premature ejaculation is sometimes also caused or aggrivated psychological factors such as guilt, fear, and performance anxiety.

The first thing a male must hold in mind is that good sex is unhurried sex. The longer he spends in foreplay prior to his first orgasm, the stronger and more enjoyable that first orgasm will be. The compacting of blood in the sex organs builds slowly, inflating the tissues and sensitizing the millions of nerve endings in and around the genitals.

Think of an orgasm like a balloon: the longer you blow air into it, the bigger it gets and the louder the bang when it pops.

Orgasm consists of two stages. One begins with the prostate gland, which encircles the urethra like a tiny donut above the base of the penis, contracts and releases its fluids, along with the contents of the seminal vesicle, into the urethra.

To most males this feels like you are going to start a good sneeze, but it’s too late to stop. Stage two is similar to the sneeze itself. The pelvic muscle contract strongly around the bulb, forcing the fluid out under considerable pressure.

Orgasm is what a man feels when all this is happening. He has probably learned for himself that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm, but he may not yet realize that he can also have an orgasm without ejaculating. That’s exactly what you want to learn to do.

The average male in his twenties takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion till he comes. This cheats him of a lot of fun and satisfaction and doubly cheats the unfortunate female he prematurely has an orgasm into.

How do I prevent premature ejaculation from happening?

The most common treatment of premature ejaculation is to become more familiar with the feelings and sensations surrounding the time leading up to ejaculation.

By learning to become more familiar with these sensations, you can slowly learn how to predict when the upcoming ejaculation will occur and gain more control over them. This is known as your point of no return.

If you want to be able to enjoy long periods of intense pleasure without ejaculation, you need to discover your point of no return. Masturbate and concentrate on you feelings.

There is a point at which you will not be able to control your ejaculation anymore.

At that point, as hard as you try, you cannot stop yourself from ejaculating. You will have to ejaculate because ejaculation is a reflex: your brain sends messages through your spinal cord to your sex organs and orders ejaculation.

Once you have successfully discovered your point of no return do not let your arousal reach this point. You can eithr change your position or stop moving.

Other techniques you may consider are the “stop and start” and the “squeeze” methods.

The “stop and start” method. When, during thrusting, you feel yourself getting closer, cease all movement and press the pubic bone (under your pubic hair) against your mate’s pubic bone, thus pushing your penis in all the way.

Then both stop moving. (Tell her, “Resting time, love.”) When the urgency to ejaculate subsides, start thrusting again. Do this several times in a row.

It can also be practiced solo, using your hand instead of a vagina. A varation of this technique is to make several voluntary twitching movements of the penis while you are resting.

This can be done by rapidly flexing and relaxing the muscles that control the flow of urine.

Try to identify this muscle contraction next time that you urinate. This muscle is known as the PC muscle and is described clearly in the Multiple-Orgasm section below.

The “squeeze technique” method. This method, which has been proven highly successful in training men to last longer described in a book by Dr. Herbert E. Vendervoort and Rev. Ted Mcilvenna. This technique can also be practiced alone during masterbation.

One stimulates himself until he has had a firm erection for a while, squeezes, and repeats the process several times. After several squeezes, one should have much more intense ejaculation than usual.

During the no-intercourse period, the couple should explore one another sensually, caressing one another’s bodies with hands and mouth or by any other means, short of intercourse, that are pleasurable to both.

If the man’s penis becomes erect while his mate is caressing it, she can, at any time that feels right to her, apply the squeeze to his penis. Preferably this should take place before the man feels himself on the verge of ejaculating.

IF the women does the squeeze several times at her descretion, it can become part of her lovemaking technique.

FAQ

Below are a few of the most frequently asked questions about our manual:
When should I use these techniques?

Whenever you wish. A lot of men do their workout first thing in the morning, and others do it before they go to bed at night. The actual time of day will not affect the process.

Can I ejaculate right before, during, or after exercising?

When you ejaculate your body goes through several chemical and physical changes, first your blood testosterone levels begin to drop, second, all your connective tissues begin to tighten as well, it is best to wait at least several hours after completion of the exercises before ejaculating, just as it is also important not to ejaculate for at least several hours before exercising as well.

When I jelq I get a little, (or a lot) sore, is this normal?
Check the soreness and see what is causing it, you may just need to trim the pubic hair right at the base of your penis. Is it a sharp pain or just a dull discomfort?

Are you doing the hot wraps?

A slight discomfort/soreness is normal and should pass as your penis and all supportive structures get used to the exercises.

Try not to stop, a slight discomfort is normal, if the pain is sharp or is strong enough to keep you from exercising take a few days off from the exercises while continuing to do the hot wraps.

How can I keep from getting erect when jelqing or stretching?

DO NOT JELQ WHEN FULLY ERECT FOR ANY REASON!!!

When you are just starting out on the program your penis is accustomed to getting hard from the stimulation because it is always being used for the same thing, get hard, get stimulated, achieve orgasm and ejaculation. After a couple weeks to a few months your penis will be accustomed to the exercises and the erections should be more controllable.

During these first few weeks if you get an erection take a few seconds or minutes to let it subside, you won’t hurt anything as all these first few weeks are for is so that Mr. Penis, (and you), can get accustomed to the exercises.

Can I do the exercises twice a day?

The ideal heal time for tissues in your body is 48 hours, (depending on the tissue type, muscle tissue is one of the the fastest, nerve tissue is the slowest at 1 to 2 mm a month). When you exercise more than once a day you are not giving Mr. Penis time to heal correctly often times at the sacrifice of growth.

I’m not circumcised, is there anything special I should do to do the exercises?

Not necessarily, there are mainly just two things you should be aware of. First, when jelqing be sure to stop just at the base of the head, second, if you choose you can use your free hand to retract the foreskin then jelq as you normally would.

How do I find my pc muscle?

An easy to find your pc muscle is: When urinating, stop the flow of urine without using your hands, and no, it’s not your anal sphincter or your abdominal muscles. After time you will get good at it and will be able to do it whenever you want, this is flexing your pc muscle.

For starters stop the flow of urine as many times as you can every time you go. After a few days you will be able to do it whenever you want. Try and do as many Kegels as you can every day. Kegels are the exercise that work the pubococcygeal (pc) muscle.

Do I have to do the Hot Wraps?

The hot wrap should not be considered optional as they serve two main purposes.

• First they serve to loosen connective tissues so they can stretch more easily with less risk of injury.

• Second the hot wraps serve to increase penile circulation which in turn increases the amount of nutrients that reach your penis.

hen can I expect to see my first gains?

Most begin to see their first gains at around the second week with others seeing gains after their 2nd month, some see gains as soon as the first exercise session. You can expect to see flaccid gains before erect gains as your penis becomes more accustomed to the increased blood flow.

I don’t have enough time to do all the exercises at once, Can I spread them out over the day?
Yes. We know that sometimes it is hard to find the time. If you wish to split the exercises up during the day, then do so.

Why can’t I do the exercises 7 days a week ?

You must rest your penis for two days, This is essential for healing. YOU MUST ALLOW TIME TO HEAL. Many men spend a year or more trying to achieve enlargement, but never seem to grow.

This is because the cells and tissues in your penis, after being stretched in exercise, must have enough adequate time to rejuvenate and build back up. This can only be accomplished through the rest time that you take off each week.

How long can I keep using these techniques?

You can use the program forever if you like. But practically speaking, your penis can only be increased SO much. You will see the most substantial growth within your first 6 months of the program (although some men may need a few months longer). However, after that time your penis may only grow a half inch a year, but there will be a slight size gain.

Ejaculation Control

First of all, it should be noted that one man in 3 ejaculates quicker than he wants to, and that the vast majority of men sometimes ejaculate too quickly. So if this happens to you, you’re hardly alone.

The following are some tips and exercises that will assist you in learning to control this problem:
You can learn to tolerate long periods of sexual pleasure without ejaculating once you learn to recognize the feelings that precede your orgasm.

There is an exercise you can try called The “One to Ten” Approach. Imagine that the scale of pleasure runs from 1 to 10: 1 you are just starting to feel aroused; 10 you have an orgasm and ejaculate.

Therefore 9, the point just before your orgasm, is your point of no return. Try masturbating. When you reach your magic point 8, stop and let the urge to ejaculate subside.

Then start masturbating again. Do this a few times. Masturbate, stop, masturbate. At the end of 15 minutes you can ejaculate (if you wish). Repeat this technique until you are able to enjoy your arousal without ejaculating for 15 minutes.

Another method that reduces the chance of premature ejaculation is one that we mention in your workout- Give Your PC Muscles a Squeeze. Review our discussion of Kegel (PC) Muscles if you’ve forgotten where these muscles are located.

Strong PC muscles operate like a good set of brakes in your car- by contracting the muscles, you can control your arousal the same way you use your brakes to control speed.

In the broadest terms of how to apply this muscle when making love, you prolong orgasms by a simulation of “stopping your urination in midstream”. Learn the powers of these muscles and how to use them. They will work wonders in the bedroom!
Finally, the oldest, simplest & best method for learning ejaculatory control is called the Locking Method.

When having sex, if you feel yourself becoming too excited… simply withdraw your penis from the vagina and pull back so that only the head of your penis remains inside her.

Then just remain motionless for 15 – 30 seconds. Wait for the urge to subside, then back to where you left off.

ANCIENT SECRET:

“Place your thumb on the top of the penis at the root and your index finger at the bottom of the penis at the root. Take a deep breath and while holding, squeeze and grip the shaft of your penis in a wave toward the tip of the penis.

The thumb, the index finger and the pinky finger push, forcing blood into the penis head. Now hold this grip for as long as you’re able to hold your breath. Repeat this exercise 9 times. Each time you hold your breath, count to 9 and with each count, squeeze more toward the head of the penis.”

Maintaining a Hard Erection

These tips will help you achieve longer lasting & harder erections:

Stick to a low-fat, high-fiber diet. High levels of cholesterol can actually clog the blood vessels in your penis. This also can cause impotence. Furthermore, you should include a little zinc in your diet.

Foods containing zinc include lean beef, turkey, cereal, lamb, crabmeat and oysters.

Make sure you get plenty of exercise. When you’re out of shape, not only does this negatively affect your ability to have sex, it increases the likelihood of erection problems.

Stop smoking. Besides the obvious health risks of smoking, studies show that smoking plays a major role in erectile & impotence problems among men.

Finally, the best piece of advice that can be given (and one you probably won’t have any problem with) is this:

If you want to have better erections- Have MORE erections!

The muscle tissue in your penis needs oxygen to survive. Where does it get that oxygen? From the red blood cells flowing in the blood. The more blood that circulates, the less chance of erectile failure.

Since blood flows to the penis at a much greater rate when you have an erection, the best way to keep the muscle tissue in your penis properly oxygenated is by having more erections. There, now you have a legitimate excuse to masturbate.

INGINKAN ANAK tapi air mani kuning

Soalan

SEMUA orang sedia maklum bahawa air mani lelaki berwarna putih. Masalah yang merunsingkan saya ialah air mani saya kekuningan.

Saya mempunyai seorang anak berusia tiga tahun, namun belum ada tanda untuk anak kedua walaupun kerap melakukan persetubuhan.

Adakah kerana faktor warna menghalang saya daripada mendapatkan zuriat kedua? Kenapa ia boleh berwarna kekuningan? Adakah disebabkan faktor jangkitan?

Harap doktor dapat membantu menerangkannya serta memberikan alamat dimana pemeriksaan dapat dijalankan.

RMNAR
Shah Alam

Jawapan

Warna air mani antara kelabu, putih dan kekuningan itu ada kaitan dengan kandungan cecair daripada pundi prostat (kelabu dan putih) serta cecair daripada pundi seminal (kekuningan).

Kadangkala air mani kelihatan cair dan jernih. Ini kerana proses kecairan air mani cepat. Ketika terangsang dan cairan jernih keluar, itu ialah cairan daripada pundi salur kencing dan cecair jernih yang keluar ketika mengemut selepas membuang air kecil ialah cairan daripada pundi Cowpers.

Jika ada jangkitan, tentu semua pundi itu diserang radang dan cairan lebih kekuningan. Untuk kepastian mengenai jangkitan, ujian air mani perlu dilakukan.

Jika anda dan pasangan pernah menimang cahaya mata dan kini mengambil masa, kemungkinan anda dan pasangan mengalami infertiliti sekunder.

Anda dan isteri perlu berjumpa doktor untuk menjalani pemeriksaan kesuburan akibat ‘infertiliti sekunder’. Pemeriksaan untuk anda ialah ujian air mani dan untuk isteri ujian hormon untuk kepastian kemampuan untuk mengeluarkan telur (ovulasi) dan x-ray rahim yang bergelar HSG.

Massage & Warm-down

This is how you should end your workout, as applying heat and massage optimizes healing. Your testicles are always trying to maintain a 34 degree temperature to keep the cells alive.

Heat restores any nerve and sensitivity problems you may have incurred during your enlargement program.Massage & Warm-down

This is how you should end your workout, as applying heat and massage optimizes healing. Your testicles are always trying to maintain a 34 degree temperature to keep the cells alive. Heat restores any nerve and sensitivity problems you may have incurred during your enlargement program.

After your workout, gently massage your penis for several minutes. After massage, you can either apply another hot towel as you did at the beginning of your workout, or you can place your penis in a bowl of lukewarm water for a another few minutes.

Either of these “heat applications” will keep the blood held within your penis and stimulate the damaged parts, restarting them to function better. Dry off well with a towel.

After your workout, gently massage your penis for several minutes. After massage, you can either apply another hot towel as you did at the beginning of your workout, or you can place your penis in a bowl of lukewarm water for a another few minutes.

Either of these “heat applications” will keep the blood held within your penis and stimulate the damaged parts, restarting them to function better. Dry off well with a towel.

This is how you should end your workout, as applying heat and massage optimizes healing. Your testicles are always trying to maintain a 34 degree temperature to keep the cells alive.

Heat restores any nerve and sensitivity problems you may have incurred during your enlargement program.

After your workout, gently massage your penis for several minutes. After massage, you can either apply another hot towel as you did at the beginning of your workout, or you can place your penis in a bowl of lukewarm water for a another few minutes.

Either of these “heat applications” will keep the blood held within your penis and stimulate the damaged parts, restarting them to function better. Dry off well with a towel.

Introduction to the PC Muscle

** PC = Pubococcygeus (PC) muscle

In researching this manual, time and time again we came across resources mentioning the PC Muscle. Performing These exercises are most IMPORTANT for several reasons: they give you stronger erections, create intense (sometimes multiple) orgasms, help you control your ejaculations, help shorten the recovery time between orgasms, and even give you a healthy prostate.

The PC muscle (or pubococcygeal muscle) is actually a group of pelvic muscles that form the basis for your sexual health. They run from your pubic bone in the front to your tailbone in the back.

You can feel this muscle at your perineum, just behind your testicles and in front of your anus.

In addition to controlling urination with other pelvic muscles, the PC muscle is what helps bring a man or woman to climax. For men, this is the muscle that involuntarily “pumps” when you ejaculate.

Strengthening and learning to control this muscle, you will find, is THE sex secret.

PC exercises

These involve doing a set of easy-to-learn pelvic-muscle exercises. This is a FOOLPROOF way for men to boost their partners’ and their own pleasure during lovemaking. Women have already been using their PC muscles for years to help them get sexually aroused easier, lubricate faster, and have more and better orgasms.

First you must Locate Your PC Muscle. It’s actually easier for men to locate this muscle and do these Exercises than it is for women. Simply stop your urine midstream when you urinate. This not only teaches you how to find the PC muscle, but gets you started on your exercises. Stop and restart your urination 5 times during every trip to the bathroom.

Using your ability to stop the flow of urine will help you control your ejaculations.
Ancient techniques refer to this process simply as “tightening the anus”.

You can flex the PC muscle quickly and repeatedly, or clench tight and hold for as long as you can. This latter exercise is tougher than it sounds, yet this is the exercise that the sex gurus say will help you prolong your erections and increase the force with which you ejaculate.

Once you’ve found your PC muscle, you can start doing the PC Exercises anytime, anywhere. You want to squeeze your PC on a daily basis. These are the PC Exercises:

Perform quick PC CLAMPS. Squeeze and release, over and over. Start with sets of twenty, then build to 100 or more. Do at least 250 PC clamps every day, for the rest of your life. Your goal is to be capable of creating 1,000 clamps a day.

Practice LONG SQUEEZES by holding the PC muscle clamped tightly for thirty seconds, or as long as you can.

Try doing STAIR STEPS: tighten and loosen in increments. Tighten for a couple of seconds, loosen for a couple of seconds. Do it over and over again.

PC FLUTTER: Tighten the PC muscle as slowly as you possibly can. Once you’ve finished the slow squeeze (to where you can’t squeeze anymore), let go. At some point it will “flutter,” and you’ll feel energy sparkling up your spine. Concentrate on deep, slow breathing while you do this. This is great for restoring energy when you’re running down!

When you urinate and you want to let those last squirts shoot out, you use your PC muscle in the other direction. By doing this you’ll feel your anus open and the sensation is different. This is called the PUSH OUT PC.

Most men can do Kegels anywhere, since they’re seldom aroused by the exercises. Continued over a lifetime, the exercises can help men (and women) head off urinary incontinence as they get older. That, plus greater arousal, enhanced orgasms and longer-lasting sex, make these some of the simplest, most beneficial exercises a man or woman can do.

Psychologists and sex experts have prescribed Kegel exercises to thousands of male patients, many of whom were troubled by erection problems.

Most who did the exercises reported firmer erections than ever before. Others reported increased sexual sensation, more intense orgasms, and the ability to delay ejaculation.

And most surprisingly, some of the men were eventually able to have multiple orgasms! That is, two or more climaxes during a single act of intercourse BEFORE ejaculating!

JELQING (also known as “Milking”) is an “ancient” technique that has been performed for centuries by many tribes and cultures. It is considered THE most effective method of penis enlargement.

These milking exercises force blood into the penis.

Over the course of several months, the blood spaces in the penis became larger, which means that they can hold more blood.

This in return makes your penis larger.
We have found that there are SEVERAL different variations of Jelqing that are practiced by men. The general notion of “milking the penis” is always the same, but the techniques seem to vary a bit.

Our personal preference is TECHNIQUE ONE. We’ve had more success growth-wise with our clients with this particular technique. Read through all the different variations on Jelqing and decide which technique you think would work for you.

You will want to use a lubricant for these exercises.

The results from Jelqing are PERMANENT. The penis will become enlarged in both the flaccid and erect states, but especially in its erect state. The exercises are beneficial, not harmful. They will actually improve the health and strength of the male organ as well as increase its size.

IMPORTANT:

Care must be taken that the exercise is NOT PERFORMED DURING HARD ERECTION.

Vascular (vein) damage could result if the penis is forcibly milked in its fully erect state. You want your penis between half to 3/4 erect.

Results cannot be obtained until a partial erection is present. After this exercise has been performed, it will be noticed that the penis (even in its flaccid state) appears both longer and thicker.

This is a fact. And from within one to several months of exercise, the penis will appear rather enormous; this is due to the impaction of blood in the penile tissues. Choose ONE of these jelqing exercise techniques to include in your workout.

This simple exercise, if practiced five days a week, will enable a man who possesses, for example, a six-inch erect penis, to add from between one to three inches to the length of his penis (measured at the top, from tip to pelvis) and it will grow in circumference proportionately.

Little or no growth may be apparent for approximately one month. During the second or third month an increase of two or more inches will not be uncommon.

TECHNIQUE FOUR

This version of stretching appears in a bestselling book on male sexuality. It also involves stretching the penis in both its flaccid and erect state. This seems to be just a slightly modified version of the Ancient technique listed above (Technique Three).

1. With your right hand, grip the penis and rhythmically pull it forward and away from your body 10 times (roughly 15 seconds each pull).

2. Repeat to the right (10 times), to the left (10 times) and down (10 times).

3. Rub the head of your penis with your thumb until you get an erection. Circle the penis at its base with your thumb and forefinger. Pull forward an inch (10 times) to force energy into the head.

4. Pull the erect penis to the right and rotate in small circles while pulling outward (10 times). Repeat to the left (10 times).

5. Gently slap your erect penis against inner thigh while pulling out on each side (10 times).